OUR THOUGHTS DIRECT OUR BEHAVIOURS

Have you ever thought why you behave the way you do? Has it ever occurred why you feel the way you feel? Maybe you have your own explanation for that, but I am absolutely convinced that our thoughts and attitudes form our feelings, actions and us as personalities. Before you do something, you will definitely think about it. Maybe you do not do it consciously but it obviously happens on a subconscious level. Why is it so?

Most of our actions are direct result of our habits. It takes time to form a habit. First we have a thought in mind. If we keep it for some time we start expressing that thought through words and finally actions follow. If we repeat the process for a number of times it slowly but surely becomes a habit in our lives. If we always react negatively to the suggestion or offer that is made to us it simply means that in a matter of some time we formed this kind of behavior through our negative attitude. It shows that we believe we have to reject something before we can accept it. I do not mean to say it is bad or good, I am just trying to show the process how our attitudes are formed. If we repeat something for a number of times it becomes a habit and finally we are able to do it subconsciously. If you drive a car you know what I mean. Most probably you were very nervous when you tried to drive for the first time. I bet it was quite different when you sat to drive after one year of driving. I guess you do not have to think what you have to do when you get into a car. You do everything habitually.

Now think if you trained yourself to view everything around you from a negative perspective. It does not matter how or why you formed it, but your negative worldview directs your actions and your whole life. I think you see now why so many people around us are so unhappy. It is not because life is unjust to them, but because of their reaction and attitude to life. We might not be able to stop what happens to us, but we definitely can change our attitude and reaction towards what happens to us. Our attitude is the thing that matters most. You decide to be pessimistic or optimistic when you fail. You decide whether it is the end of the world or the beginning of it when you lose a job.

I have heard so many people say: "I cannot behave and think like that. That is simply not me". The good news is that you decide what kind of person you want to be and what thoughts you want to harbor in your mind. One day those thoughts become yours. They become part of your worldview. That's how you formed thoughts that you have now. You kept in your mind for some time until they became yours.
So if you want to change your life change your thoughts and your attitude. With time your words, actions and life will change. It is just a matter of time.